Letting go of dresses I adored, felt like letting go of a former version of me. Twenty green shopping bags later and my wardrobe was almost empty. And yet I wasn’t. My youness was quietly expanding. I didn’t lose my style as well as my breasts. What I lost was the assumption that I should dress to conceal what was now missing. And that moment was the beginning of reclaiming my youness.

Three years on, the chapter no longer reflected what actually unfolded, and I couldn’t share my book while this mismatch existed. Updating wasn’t about rewriting history; it was bringing the story back into alignment with my lived experience, my integrity and my youest you.

Unapologetic youness isn’t a personality trait. It’s a daily choice. An elegant rebellion against every moment you were told you were ‘too’ something.

Boundaries feel like walls. Acceptance points feel like truth. Boundaries often become hard lines or energetic fences – too rigid and too externally focused. No wonder many of us struggle with them. For me, boundaries aren’t about pushing people away. They’re about staying connected to ourselves – our youest you. And that’s where acceptance points come in.

Empowerment is within you! One of this card’s magical truths is: empowerment isn’t external – it rises from lineage, lived experience, boundaries and grace.

This year, the word that arrived was Restore. Soft. Quiet. Unhurried. A word that felt almost out of place against the backdrop of the Year of the Fire Horse — a cycle known for movement, momentum and unapologetic forward‑surge.

First printed in Holistic Bliss Magazine, February 2026 Maybe it was the frenetic energy of editing deadlines and summits, but when I sat down to write this month’s column, I swear I had 47 ideas all swirling at once and no idea where to start. Just staring at the blank page, tapping my pen, hoping one idea would land. Yes, I write my first draft long‑hand — it’s how I connect with what I’m creating. And that thought of connection became my moment of clarity in the chaos.